As a mom who's currently 32 weeks pregnant and still breastfeeding her toddler, I know firsthand the dilemma that many mothers face: to wean or not to wean before the next baby arrives. It's a deeply personal decision, one that's often met with unsolicited opinions and judgment from well-meaning friends and family members.

In this candid blog post, I'm going to pull back the curtain and share the honest truth about breastfeeding while pregnant, based on my own experiences and insights. From the impact on milk supply and nipple sensitivity to the pros and cons of tandem nursing, I'll cover it all – the good, the bad, and the downright uncomfortable.

The Milk Supply Dilemma: When to Expect Dips and Changes

One of the biggest concerns for breastfeeding mothers who become pregnant is the potential dip in milk supply. And let me tell you, it's a very real possibility. In my case, I noticed a significant drop in my milk supply around the three-month mark of my pregnancy, even though I was only nursing my toddler once or twice a day.

Typically, most women experience the most drastic dip in milk supply between four and five months of pregnancy. However, it's not uncommon for supply to start decreasing as early as the first or second month.

It's important to note that if your baby is under six months old and solely reliant on breastmilk when you become pregnant, this dip in supply can be particularly challenging. The impact may be less significant for older babies and toddlers who are eating solid foods, but it's still something to be aware of.

Additionally, as you progress through your pregnancy, the composition of your breastmilk will change. In the third trimester, it will start to resemble the colostrum you produced when your baby was first born – thicker and richer in antibodies, but potentially less in quantity.

The Nipple Sensitivity Struggle

Another factor to consider when breastfeeding during pregnancy is the increased nipple sensitivity and potential for nipple pain. As your hormones shift and your breasts prepare for the arrival of your new baby, you may experience tender, sore nipples – especially when your toddler wants to nurse frequently.

For some women, the nipple pain can become so severe that they ultimately decide to wean before giving birth. It's a personal choice that should be respected, as only you can gauge your comfort level and what's best for you and your family.

To Tandem or Not to Tandem: The Great Debate

One of the biggest decisions you'll face is whether to attempt tandem breastfeeding – nursing both your newborn and your older child simultaneously. There are pros and cons to consider, and ultimately, the choice comes down to what feels right for you and your unique circumstances.

1. It can help your milk supply establish more quickly after giving birth, as your toddler's nursing will stimulate production.
2. Some mothers find that it helps their older child transition better to having a new sibling, as they can observe and participate in the nursing process.
3. It allows you to continue the breastfeeding journey with your older child, potentially making the eventual weaning process smoother.

1. Juggling the needs and schedules of two nurslings can be physically and emotionally demanding.
2. Your older child may become jealous or resentful of sharing nursing time with the new baby.
3. If your milk supply has already dipped significantly during pregnancy, it may be difficult to meet the needs of both children adequately.

As you can see, there are valid points on both sides of the tandem nursing debate. It's a highly personal decision that requires careful consideration of your individual circumstances, preferences, and goals.

The Emotional Rollercoaster: Navigating Judgment and Indecision

One aspect of breastfeeding during pregnancy that often goes undiscussed is the emotional toll it can take from fielding unsolicited opinions and judgment from loved ones to grappling with indecision about when (or if) to wean, it can be an emotionally charged journey.

In my case, I've had nearly everyone in my life – family, friends, and even medical professionals – encourage me to wean my toddler before the baby arrives. Their well-intentioned advice, while coming from a place of care, can sometimes feel dismissive of the emotional bond and connection that breastfeeding fosters.

On the flip side, I find myself constantly second-guessing my own instincts. Will it be easier for my toddler to transition if I wean him now, or will tandem nursing help him adjust better? I don't have a clear answer, and that uncertainty can be incredibly frustrating and anxiety-inducing.

The Truth About Finding Your Way

As I navigate this journey, one thing has become abundantly clear: there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Every mother, every baby, and every situation is unique. What works for one family may not work for another, and that's okay.

My advice to you, dear mama, is to trust your instincts and do what feels right for you and your children. Seek out support from other mothers who have been in your shoes, but ultimately, let your heart and your gut be your guide.

If you choose to wean before your new baby arrives, embrace that decision with confidence and grace. If you decide to tandem nurse, prepare yourself for the challenges, but also the incredible bond and nourishment you'll be providing to your children.

And if, like me, you find yourself wavering back and forth, unsure of which path to take, know that you are not alone. This journey is full of twists and turns, and it's perfectly normal to feel uncertain at times.

Wherever you find yourself on this road, remember that you are an incredible mother, doing the best you can for your family. Embrace the journey, seek out support when you need it, and know that this too shall pass – one way or another.

I'll be sure to share a follow-up post once my new baby arrives, detailing how things unfold and whether I ultimately decide to tandem nurse or wean before birth. 

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